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Hello, how are you? I know it’s been a long time since I put out a podcast episode. I’ve missed talking with you. If you are one of my subscribers, thank you so much for sticking with me. If you’re new to me, welcome!

All right, now let’s catch up for a moment and then we’ll get into today’s talk.

Firstly, and you might have already noticed this, I’ve changed my name to Scarlet Lovella. I may explain that a little over time, but yes, my new name is Scarlet Lovella. So, you’ll notice this change on my podcast title and my website.

Secondly, I’ve started using a new platform to virtually connect with my submissives & fetishists, as well as live stream so that I can talk more explicitly and titillatingly about BDSM. You can find out how to join in on my website, which is linked in the podcast notes. 

So, let’s get into the topic for today. Today I want to talk to you about living. This is not going to be a salacious talk, so if that’s what you’re expecting…well, no that’s not happening right now. But this is a necessary talk.

So here we are in 2020, a year of pandemic, a year of heightening awareness about existing racial and social injustice and so much more. So many of us have been in massive amounts of upheaval and stress.

How in the world does kinky sexuality fit into life amongst all this heaviness? What is it’s purpose and is it merely frivolous right now?

If you’re someone whose intimate desires tend to wither under heavy stress, as mine do sometimes, I’m speaking to you. 

So how does kinky sexuality fit into our world right now? I’ve pondered this many, many times, especially during this turbulent year. The answer I’ve come up with after all this questioning is that kinky sexuality absolutely has a rightful place despite all of this mess; it’s existence – for those who desire it – fosters our hopes, our connections, our loves and our humanity.

These are vital things.

So here we are in this turmoil, accepting that we are still here and that we still have human needs that are vulnerable. Yes, this is a kinky Dominant who also says I am vulnerable too. We all are. We still have hearts beating within, even when the sound is faint…and even when our stress seems a whole lot louder.

But I have to say something. I want you to hear me: I’m so glad that you’re still here.

In case no one has told you lately, I’m so glad you’re still here. I’m so glad we’re alive and we will have better times ahead. Please remember to rest. Please try your very best to take excellent care of yourself. And please keep dreaming and hoping for a sweet future. Because during times like these it is so, so easy to forget hope and to forget to dream. However…

To hope is beautiful.

To dream, especially in times like these, it’s courageous.

To rest is imperative.

To try, even if just for another breath and even if just to get through another day…that is an act of living.

Let’s love ourselves and each other excellently. I’m going to say that again: let’s love ourselves and each other excellently.

Remember this, please. Amidst the turmoil, amidst the terror, amidst the heartbreak. I’m glad you’re still here.

I’m sending you love and hope and beautiful dreams.

I’ll talk to you again soon.

Scarlet Lovella